Have you ever heard the saying, “Comparison is the killer of authenticity?” Well if you have not, don’t worry, this is just my version of the original saying.
I have always wondered why we torture ourselves by making comparisons between ourselves and other people who we believe are doing better than we are simply because our paths look similar. I found that it all starts with the kind of parenting that we receive as children; people whose parents constantly compared to their peers or even siblings struggle with the “comparison syndrome” because they feel like whatever they do is only as good as what the next person does. This is unhealthy and keeps people from growing and reaching their full potentials.
If we look closely and objectively at the concept of comparison, we will find that it makes zero sense to do that because each individual is unique and built differently on the inside even if the outside looks exactly the same, don’t take my word for it, look up DNA and see for yourself. We each need to embrace our individuality and focus on honing our talents and potentials. Embracing our individuality does not mean that we become an island and try to figure it all out by ourselves without any external influences, no we need to learn from the experiences of those that life brings our way without losing sight of who we are and what we are capable of achieving.
Comparison kills authenticity because then you’re just trying to be like everyone else and trying to out-do them when you can channel all of your energy to creating a unique path; you could become a pioneer rather than a copycat.
If you struggle with Comparison, please stop and stay focused on your journey because the grass is not always greener on the other side but it is definitely greener where you water it.